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Adoptees' campaign for the right to their birth records

Although I am 44 years old, it no longer surprises me to see myself referred to as a "child" or to have a cutesy-pie baby graphic accompanying an editorial on the right of adult adoptees to access the documents recording their own births ("Fight over adoption secrecy," Feb. 22). The idea that adult adoptees are perpetual children is one that is promulgated over and over again by the mass media, which ought to know better.

These sorts of demeaning representations are part of the reason I joined Bastard Nation two years ago. It did surprise me to see the author imply that my organization is somehow "outing their own mothers." This is both inaccurate and insulting.

Bastard Nation's mission is narrow and very public. We stand for the right of every person to access the documents recording his or her own birth. We also stand for the dignity of adult adoptees. I can think of no better reason for our continued existence and activism than editorials such as yours, which describe adult adoptees as "dangerous" and "angry" children.

We do not "exist on the Internet." Adult adoptees are everywhere. You probably have some on your editorial staff or in your newsroom.

Ron Morgan
Executive Committee
Bastard Nation
San Francisco

Adult adoptees are neither children nor vengeful psychopaths in an alliance with their mothers' rapists. Your tale of horror and fear is the latest and most extreme in the ongoing abrogation of the rights of citizens who are forbidden from seeing their own birth certificates through no fault of their own but as a result of archaic laws that have existed in California since 1935.

Janine Baer
El Cerrito

I am a 39-year-old male adoptee. I have known since I was 6 that I was adopted. Why is it, you may ask, that I've waited this long to begin a search?

Basically, I did not wish to hurt or offend my adoptive parents, whom I love dearly. My adoptive mother has passed on. It's been over five years now, and my adoptive father has encouraged me "to find out who I am."

I put my poor adoptive parents through hell all the way through my teenage years and beyond. I was searching for answers in all the wrong places, and in all the wrong ways. This is directly related to my adoption, or the feeling of abandonment that comes with it.

Should adoptees have to go through their entire lives in this detached and uncertain way?

Granted birth parents have rights, and in all actuality they have done us adoptees a favor by choosing life. I thank the Lord and my birth mother on a regular basis for giving me life.

But unless there are circumstances surrounding the adoption that warrant closed records, such as rape or incest, records should be made available to responsible adult adoptees.

After all, as adults, aren't we supposed to be held accountable for our actions? And parents are held accountable for their children's actions. Why should birth parents be exempt from this common rule or law of civilization?

Are you aware of how expensive it is to have a search performed? Why should we be exploited by some search organization when the information could be made available for virtually nothing?

Once we know that we are adopted, we will search. It is only a matter of how — through legal or illegal means. Haven't we, as adoptees, been put through enough already? It must end somewhere. Open records now!

David L. Blatter
Vacaville

I found it along with the potential for breast cancer, heart failure and various other cancers. I am not sad that I found this out. I am happy that I have the armament to control and now fight these things head on.

My life along with the lives of other adoptees is affected by such things as medical records. Can you deny this right to a non-adoptee?

We as children are ridiculed by our peers. Such things as, "You weren't wanted," and the infamous, "Now I know why you're acting so strangely."

My 23-year struggle searching and finding a way to come to grips with a society that would cast out a child for something she had absolutely no control over came to an end when I found my family. Honesty among the members of the family about the wants and needs of each individual made the reunion a bit more comfortable than what was originally expected.

In finding my heritage I found 12 brothers and sisters. All are individuals and special in their own ways. My birth mother is kind and very compassionate. My birth father is deceased. I am still not completely in contact with everyone and that is OK. My effect on their lives is based on their needs too.

Debora Kyllar
San Jose

After 19 long years I found my daughter. It was important to me that she know how much I love her and have thought about her over the years, and I believed it was her right to know the truth.

The adoption reform movement in this country has struggled since the 1950s to shed light on the real issues and lifelong process of adoption for adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents. The amended birth certificate of adoptees is one of the first lies in every adoption. This legal document declares the adoptive parents gave birth to the child.

Measure 58 in Oregon takes a complicated issue and simplifies it by giving back to adult adoptees a basic human right — to their birth heritage. I know of several adult adoptees who are honest citizens, married with children, and who fought for their country in war and cannot get passports because they cannot produce their birth certificates.

And there are plenty of birth mothers like me who love their children and would welcome them into their lives. It is time for human rights to triumph over fear.

Sheila Ganz
San Francisco

Promoting anything but open records on demand for adult adoptees is promoting discrimination, fear and shame.

Truth and honesty will always prevail over secrets and lies. This is as it should be.

Not very complicated, really.

Linda Elvin
San Jose